There’s nothing wrong with a little healthy competition they say. Sure! Until that healthy competition starts eating insane amounts of candy and ends up with silver fillings. Quite rotten, right? Competing draws the line between a clear winner and a loser. The goal is to strive to beat your opponent to the best of your ability and if you’re the one that ends up on the losing side, you may not feel quite like a good sportsman as when you began. Why? Because everyone wants to win. If there are a set of rules or a standard that you must meet and they aren’t met, human nature allows you to feel like you may have failed or that you weren’t able to do your best.
Do I believe in competition? Yup! I think people who have dedicated their lives to becoming athletes and have made careers to compete should be competitors. I believe that if there is a competition and you’re entering with the knowing possibility of a loss, you should compete. For those who are not, and spend their time and their efforts competing against others who may not know who you are, have no idea that you are competing against them and no clear competition has been set in place, should reconsider their efforts and determine their true motives. I can attest to that silent competition. I think when we really sit down and think about it, we’ve all done it. We’ve all been that person secretly wanting to get more likes, more votes, more popularity, more everything. So, when we’re working hard, creating our content, writing those speeches or whatever it is that we do, some of that motivation is tied into being better than our counterparts who we’ve silently deemed as our competitors.
The problem with silent competition is that it’s toxic. It’s damaging to only one person, you. You’re tirelessly trying to beat someone who doesn’t even know that they’re in a competition, so who really wins? Not only that, you have to constantly try to keep up with what they’re doing, how they’re doing it, when they’re doing it and try to figure out a “better” strategy to top it. But who’s judging it? Who’s determining the winner? No one is and for that, the tireless competition never stops. You continue in an unhealthy cycle of posting heart and smiley face emojis followed by cute but low key petty comments and really, secretly wanting them to really lose.
You end up losing yourself. You really lose your essence and the work that you’re creating is no longer about you. It’s no longer coming from a creative and genuine place. So how do we omit the silent competition? We first accept that there will always be someone better at something. Why? Because that’s just the way that the cookie crumbles. But just because the cookie crumbles, doesn’t mean that you’re a crumb. Get me? Just because someone may be better doesn’t mean that you’re not good. After acceptance, we need to shift our motivations and our motives from silently competing to becoming a better version of ourselves. That’s where the true power comes in and only then will you truly and morally excel. See, when you try to beat the person or the work that you were or did yesterday, your devious efforts are canceled, you focus on your success and your success only and you can measure how far you’ve come and where you may need improvement. The cycle then becomes solely about you, your essence and your creativity and work come forth in a new and brighter light. It was never about you and them anyway. It’s always been and will always be about becoming a better version of who you are.
For my look, I kept it simple and chic. I’ve been wearing the heck out of these Everlane Wide Leg Jeans offline that they’ve now perfectly formed to my body. That’s what happens when you wear 100% cotton jeans. They start off kinda rigid and stiff because there’s absolutely no stretch, but as you wear them more, the jeans start to mold to your shape. I paired it with a 100% cotton top with ruffle sleeves and front button detail and a simple pair of black, patent leather heels. I threw in a quick glam accessory, my pearl, and jewel cat eye Sunnies, just for a little added flair. Comments, questions, concerns? Leave them below and let’s chat! If you want to keep up with me daily, follow me on Instagram to stay updated with me. If you desire a more personalized approach to picking out the best pieces for your summer wardrobe, visit my Wardrobe Services and pick your package! Make sure that you Subscribe to stay updated with new fashion news from HGG and until next time, Grab your Garb!
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